"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better."- Maya Angelou
People frequently ask me, "Do you think people can really change?" Because I've had the privilege of witnessing so many amazing examples of people recreating themselves through hard work and dedication to their process, my answer to this question is absolutely, "yes." The more critical question is whether or not people really WANT to change. When the answer to this question is "yes"-when people value themselves and others enough to put in the work- therapy can be an incredibly meaningful and often life-altering experience.
Healthy change is the key. Albert Einstein said that “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” This quote probably best captures my idea of what therapy is really all about.
Bottom line, you have been doing what you are doing and are not happy. Maybe you have even tried a few different things but are still frustrated that life somehow stays the same or even gets worse. Therapy is really all about breaking out of unproductive or even harmful cycles. It's about learning how to do things differently in order to get the desired result in an environment that offers validation, empowerment, healing, repairing of relationships, and accountability. Only by doing things differently can we make our lives different. Therapy offers the “how to” in order to most effectively “do life different.” You can’t make different choices doing the same things or thinking the same way. Change your mind, change your actions, change your life.
In order to enjoy the breakthrough success therapy can bring, you need to find the right therapist. That means finding someone with whom you connect, who you feel like really "gets" you, and in whom you feel you can place your trust to provide you with the tools you need to reach your objectives. It means feeling like you are really listened to and that the environment around you is safe and comfortable. When these conditions are in place, positive change can be facilitated. My practice is centered around creating this type of therapist-client interaction.
Positive change is just one phone call away.