Why do we do what we do? It seems that everyone in some way or another is looking for the answer to this question. Whether it be in regards to personal issues or within the dynamics of a relationship, all behavior makes sense in its context. Once we stop to actually research what that context may be and take an inventory of what might really be going on, we gain a better understanding of not only our own behavior, but the behavior of those around us. Psychotherapy offers a way to find that context, to understand how it became what it is, and provide the tools needed to create something much more favorable.
One question I've been asked quite frequently over the years is, "Do you think people can really change?" I have had the privilege to watch so many amazing examples of people creating powerful changes through hard work and dedication to their process to know that the answer to this question is absolutely, "yes." However, I think the more accurate question might be whether or not people really WANT to change. When the answer to this question is "yes", therapy can become a very meaningful and often life altering experience.
Albert Einstein said that “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” I still find that this quote probably best fits my idea of what therapy is really all about.
Bottom line, you have been doing what you are doing and are not happy. Maybe you have even tried a few different things but are still frustrated that life somehow stays the same or even gets worse. Therapy is really all about learning how to do it different in order to get the desired result in an environment that offers validation, empowerment, healing, repairing of relationships, and accountability. Only by doing it differently can we make our lives different. Therapy offers the “how to” in order to most effectively “do it different.” You can’t make different choices doing the same things or thinking the same way. This concept is beautifully illustrated by Carl Jung’s statement, “No problem can be solved on the level of consciousness that created the problem in the first place.”
Additionally, one of the most important factors for anyone seeking therapy to consider is finding the right therapist. So what does that mean? It means finding someone with whom you connect who you feel like "gets" you and in whom you feel you can place your trust to provide you with the tools you need to reach your objectives. It means feeling like you are really listened to and that the environment around you is safe and comfortable. When these conditions are in place, positive change can be facilitated. My practice is centered around creating this type of therapist-client interaction.